{"id":5178,"date":"2021-01-18T16:00:59","date_gmt":"2021-01-18T15:00:59","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/klett.cz\/blog\/?p=5178"},"modified":"2021-01-18T16:00:59","modified_gmt":"2021-01-18T15:00:59","slug":"jak-jednat-s-utocnym-psychicky-narusenym-rodicem","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/klett.cz\/konference\/2021\/01\/18\/jak-jednat-s-utocnym-psychicky-narusenym-rodicem\/","title":{"rendered":"Jak jednat s \u00fato\u010dn\u00fdm, psychicky naru\u0161en\u00fdm rodi\u010dem"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_one_full-79ff81c021393065cee878051452f6a6\">\n.flex_column.av-av_one_full-79ff81c021393065cee878051452f6a6{\nborder-radius:0px 0px 0px 0px;\npadding:0px 0px 0px 0px;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div  class='flex_column av-av_one_full-79ff81c021393065cee878051452f6a6 av_one_full  avia-builder-el-0  el_before_av_one_full  avia-builder-el-first  first flex_column_div av-zero-column-padding  '     ><section  class='av_textblock_section av-kk2p1aqd-67d518f30714263d34db6b37761fe282 '   itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/BlogPosting\" itemprop=\"blogPost\" ><div class='avia_textblock'  itemprop=\"text\" ><h1><strong>Jak jednat s\u00a0\u00fato\u010dn\u00fdm, psychicky naru\u0161en\u00fdm rodi\u010dem<\/strong><\/h1>\n<p>U\u010ditel\u00e9 se ve sv\u00e9 praxi setk\u00e1vaj\u00ed nejen s rodi\u010di, s nimi\u017e je n\u00e1ro\u010dn\u00e9 se domluvit, ale i s rodi\u010di, s nimi\u017e rozumn\u00e1 domluva v\u016fbec nen\u00ed mo\u017en\u00e1. N\u011bkdy jde o rodi\u010de s poruchou osobnosti, jindy o z\u00e1visl\u00e9ho rodi\u010de \u010di rodi\u010de trp\u00edc\u00edho du\u0161evn\u00ed poruchou. Jedn\u00e1n\u00ed s takov\u00fdm rodi\u010dem b\u00fdv\u00e1 zcela specifick\u00e9, proto\u017ee v\u011bt\u0161inou verb\u00e1ln\u011b \u00fato\u010d\u00ed, zahrnuje v\u00e1s mnoha nen\u00e1vistn\u00fdmi emaily v jakoukoliv denn\u00ed dobu, ur\u00e1\u017e\u00ed v\u00e1s osobn\u011b, napad\u00e1 \u0161kolu, zpochyb\u0148uje zp\u016fsob va\u0161\u00ed pr\u00e1ce, zad\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00ed \u00fakol\u016f, hodnocen\u00ed apod. \u010casto vyhro\u017euje t\u00edm, \u017ee sv\u00e9 d\u00edt\u011b \u201cz t\u00e9 hrozn\u00e9\u201c \u0161koly vezme. <strong>M\u00e1m te\u010f na mysli opravdu extr\u00e9mn\u011b \u00fato\u010dn\u00e9ho a kritick\u00e9ho rodi\u010de, kter\u00fd se vymyk\u00e1 norm\u00e1lu. <\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div><\/section><\/div>\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_one_full-79ff81c021393065cee878051452f6a6\">\n.flex_column.av-av_one_full-79ff81c021393065cee878051452f6a6{\nborder-radius:0px 0px 0px 0px;\npadding:0px 0px 0px 0px;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div  class='flex_column av-av_one_full-79ff81c021393065cee878051452f6a6 av_one_full  avia-builder-el-2  el_after_av_one_full  el_before_av_one_full  first flex_column_div av-zero-column-padding  column-top-margin'     ><style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-kk2p21n8-55db7bf84d89e250a00e5db324fea964\">\n.avia-image-container.av-kk2p21n8-55db7bf84d89e250a00e5db324fea964 img.avia_image{\nbox-shadow:none;\n}\n.avia-image-container.av-kk2p21n8-55db7bf84d89e250a00e5db324fea964 .av-image-caption-overlay-center{\ncolor:#ffffff;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div  class='avia-image-container av-kk2p21n8-55db7bf84d89e250a00e5db324fea964 av-styling- avia-align-center  avia-builder-el-3  avia-builder-el-no-sibling '   itemprop=\"image\" itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/ImageObject\" ><div class=\"avia-image-container-inner\"><div class=\"avia-image-overlay-wrap\"><img decoding=\"async\" fetchpriority=\"high\" class='wp-image-5179 avia-img-lazy-loading-not-5179 avia_image ' src=\"https:\/\/klett.cz\/konference\/wp-content\/uploads\/10-1.png\" alt='' title='10'  height=\"686\" width=\"1000\"  itemprop=\"thumbnailUrl\" srcset=\"https:\/\/klett.cz\/konference\/wp-content\/uploads\/10-1.png 1000w, https:\/\/klett.cz\/konference\/wp-content\/uploads\/10-1-300x206.png 300w, https:\/\/klett.cz\/konference\/wp-content\/uploads\/10-1-768x527.png 768w, https:\/\/klett.cz\/konference\/wp-content\/uploads\/10-1-705x484.png 705w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_one_full-79ff81c021393065cee878051452f6a6\">\n.flex_column.av-av_one_full-79ff81c021393065cee878051452f6a6{\nborder-radius:0px 0px 0px 0px;\npadding:0px 0px 0px 0px;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div  class='flex_column av-av_one_full-79ff81c021393065cee878051452f6a6 av_one_full  avia-builder-el-4  el_after_av_one_full  el_before_av_one_full  first flex_column_div av-zero-column-padding  column-top-margin'     ><section  class='av_textblock_section av-kk2p2odn-7e3c73660b312428d606f2258d99a4c9 '   itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/BlogPosting\" itemprop=\"blogPost\" ><div class='avia_textblock'  itemprop=\"text\" ><h3><strong>P\u0159i jedn\u00e1n\u00ed s\u00a0takov\u00fdm typem rodi\u010de je dobr\u00e9 dr\u017eet se n\u011bkolika pravidel:<\/strong><\/h3>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Neberte si jeho \u00fatoky osobn\u011b<\/strong>. Zamyslete se, jestli to, co V\u00e1m rodi\u010d vy\u010d\u00edt\u00e1, m\u00e1 re\u00e1ln\u00fd z\u00e1klad ve va\u0161\u00ed \u0161patn\u011b odveden\u00e9 pr\u00e1ci, pop\u0159. souvis\u00ed s\u00a0n\u011bjakou chybou (j\u00ed\u017e se m\u016f\u017ee dopustit ka\u017ed\u00fd) a pokud ne, d\u011blejte v\u0161echno pro to, a\u0165 to, co jste si pr\u00e1v\u011b vyslechli \u010di p\u0159e\u010detli, neovlivn\u00ed ani va\u0161e sebev\u011bdom\u00ed, ani va\u0161i n\u00e1ladu.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Neobhajujte se.<\/strong> B\u00fdv\u00e1 to zbyte\u010dn\u00e9. Rodi\u010d, kter\u00e9ho zaj\u00edm\u00e1 v\u00e1\u0161 n\u00e1zor, si p\u0159ijde post\u011b\u017eovat, ale chce si v\u00e1s taky vyslechnout. \u00dato\u010dn\u00fd, psychicky naru\u0161en\u00fd rodi\u010d m\u00e1 pot\u0159ebu dostat ze sebe sv\u00e9 emoce, zatla\u010dit v\u00e1s do kouta, p\u0159inutit v\u00e1s, abyste se c\u00edtili \u0161patn\u011b a za\u010dali se chovat podle jeho p\u0159edstav. Ve chv\u00edli, kdy se za\u010dnete obhajovat, d\u00e1v\u00e1te mu najevo to, \u017ee jej berete v\u00e1\u017en\u011b a taky mu p\u0159id\u00e1v\u00e1te dal\u0161\u00ed podn\u011bty, na n\u011b\u017e m\u016f\u017ee reagovat. Myslete na to, \u017ee tento typ rodi\u010de bere slu\u0161nost a m\u00edrnost jako va\u0161i slabost. A\u0165 budete argumentovat sebel\u00edp, on si svou \u201epravdu\u201c nenech\u00e1 vz\u00edt. Jeho c\u00edlem je pomst\u00edt se v\u00e1m, ne vyjasnit si situaci a dohodnout se.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Neustupujte mu<\/strong>. Pokud si na v\u00e1s vynucuje tento typ rodi\u010de n\u011bjak\u00e9 \u00falevy, zm\u011bny, zvl\u00e1\u0161tn\u00ed p\u0159\u00edstup pro sv\u00e9 d\u00edt\u011b, b\u00fdv\u00e1 dobr\u00e9 dr\u017eet se toho, \u017ee m\u00e1te stejn\u00e9 podm\u00ednky pro v\u0161echny a nediskutovat o tom. (Pokud n\u011bkdo opravdu pot\u0159ebuje individu\u00e1ln\u00ed p\u0159\u00edstup, m\u016f\u017ee o to po\u017e\u00e1dat slu\u0161n\u011b). Ustoup\u00edte-li jednou, bude to op\u011bt br\u00e1t jako va\u0161i slabost a neschopnost, kterou mu jen \u201epotvrd\u00edte, \u017ee m\u011bl pravdu v\u00a0tom, \u017ee to d\u011bl\u00e1te \u0161patn\u011b a mus\u00ed to hl\u00eddat a radit v\u00e1m\u201c.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Nekomunikujte s\u00a0n\u00edm o samot\u011b, a pokud je to mo\u017en\u00e9, nekomunikujte s\u00a0n\u00edm v\u016fbec.<\/strong> Takto specifi\u010dt\u00ed rodi\u010de jsou na\u0161t\u011bst\u00ed v\u00fdjimkou a b\u00fdv\u00e1 dobr\u00e9 domluvit se v\u00a0r\u00e1mci \u0161koly, \u017ee s\u00a0nimi bude komunikovat jedna osoba, a to ide\u00e1ln\u011b \u0159editel \u0161koly, proto\u017ee m\u00e1 autoritu a jeho rozhodnut\u00ed jsou z\u00e1vazn\u00e1. Je t\u00edm spln\u011bn po\u017eadavek zab\u00fdvat se n\u00e1mitkami a p\u0159ipom\u00ednkami rodi\u010de, ale z\u00e1rove\u0148 se t\u00edm p\u0159edch\u00e1z\u00ed zkreslov\u00e1n\u00ed informac\u00ed o tom, kdo komu kdy co \u0159ekl. P\u0159ijde-li si rodi\u010d st\u011b\u017eovat do \u0161koly osobn\u011b, je dobr\u00e9 jej k\u00a0\u0159editeli zav\u00e9st \u010di poslat a sch\u016fzky se p\u0159\u00edpadn\u011b \u00fa\u010dastnit jako dal\u0161\u00ed osoba. P\u00ed\u0161e-li v\u00e1m sv\u00e9 st\u00ed\u017enosti v\u00a0emailech, je nejlep\u0161\u00edm \u0159e\u0161en\u00edm zareagovat s\u00a0odstupem jednoho \u010di v\u00edce dn\u016f jednou v\u011btou, v\u00a0n\u00ed\u017e vyj\u00e1d\u0159\u00edte, \u017ee jej informujete o tom, \u017ee jste st\u00ed\u017enosti obdr\u017eel\/a, ale \u017ee se s nimi m\u00e1 rodi\u010d obr\u00e1tit p\u0159\u00edmo na \u0159editele \u0161koly. Rodi\u010di t\u00edm op\u011bt d\u00e1v\u00e1te najevo, \u017ee jej berete v\u00e1\u017en\u011b (zareagujete), ale nebudete se jeho p\u0159ipom\u00ednkami zab\u00fdvat. Rodi\u010d se \u010dasto \u0159editeli u\u017e neozve, proto\u017ee by musel svou st\u00ed\u017enost p\u0159eformulovat ve zdvo\u0159ilej\u0161\u00edm t\u00f3nu a proto\u017ee emoce, kter\u00e9 jej k\u00a0naps\u00e1n\u00ed st\u00ed\u017enosti vedly, si u\u017e vybil na v\u00e1s.<\/li>\n<li>Kdy\u017e se s\u00a0\u00fato\u010dn\u00fdm rodi\u010dem setk\u00e1te, b\u00fdv\u00e1 to hodn\u011b nep\u0159\u00edjemn\u00e9, zvl\u00e1\u0161t\u011b pro citliv\u00e9 a sv\u011bdomit\u00e9 bytosti. M\u016f\u017ee to ve v\u00e1s vyvolat \u0159adu pochybnost\u00ed, ale taky my\u0161lenek a negativn\u00edch pocit\u016f. <strong>Doporu\u010duji v\u00e1m vypov\u00eddat se z\u00a0toho, j\u00edt se proj\u00edt, vyd\u00fdchat to, dostat jak emoce, tak i nap\u011bt\u00ed, kter\u00e9 v\u00e1m takov\u00fd rodi\u010d p\u0159edal, ze sebe ven. <\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div><\/section><\/div>\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_one_full-79ff81c021393065cee878051452f6a6\">\n.flex_column.av-av_one_full-79ff81c021393065cee878051452f6a6{\nborder-radius:0px 0px 0px 0px;\npadding:0px 0px 0px 0px;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div  class='flex_column av-av_one_full-79ff81c021393065cee878051452f6a6 av_one_full  avia-builder-el-6  el_after_av_one_full  avia-builder-el-last  first flex_column_div av-zero-column-padding  column-top-margin'     ><section  class='av_textblock_section av-kk2p371x-481ff4602ac03b98a9d4cacb967bda34 '   itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/BlogPosting\" itemprop=\"blogPost\" ><div class='avia_textblock'  itemprop=\"text\" ><p>Nejen ve \u0161kole, ale i v\u00a0b\u011b\u017en\u00e9m \u017eivot\u011b je dobr\u00e9 si uv\u011bdomovat, \u017ee nen\u00ed t\u0159eba, aby v\u00e1s m\u011bli v\u0161ichni r\u00e1di a abyste se v\u0161emi dob\u0159e vych\u00e1zeli. Nen\u00ed to re\u00e1ln\u00e9. Budete se setk\u00e1vat i s\u00a0lidmi, p\u0159ed jejich\u017e chov\u00e1n\u00edm a \u00fatoky se pot\u0159ebujete chr\u00e1nit. P\u0159eji v\u00e1m, a\u0165 to dok\u00e1\u017eete bez pocit\u016f viny a v\u00fd\u010ditek sv\u011bdom\u00ed.<\/p>\n<h4>Mgr. et Mgr. Eva Martin\u00e1kov\u00e1<\/h4>\n<\/div><\/section><\/div><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>U\u010ditel\u00e9 se ve sv\u00e9 praxi setk\u00e1vaj\u00ed nejen s rodi\u010di, s nimi\u017e je n\u00e1ro\u010dn\u00e9 se domluvit, ale i s rodi\u010di, s nimi\u017e rozumn\u00e1 domluva v\u016fbec nen\u00ed mo\u017en\u00e1. N\u011bkdy jde o rodi\u010de s poruchou osobnosti, jindy o z\u00e1visl\u00e9ho rodi\u010de \u010di rodi\u010de trp\u00edc\u00edho du\u0161evn\u00ed poruchou. Jedn\u00e1n\u00ed s takov\u00fdm rodi\u010dem b\u00fdv\u00e1 zcela specifick\u00e9, proto\u017ee v\u011bt\u0161inou verb\u00e1ln\u011b \u00fato\u010d\u00ed, zahrnuje v\u00e1s mnoha nen\u00e1vistn\u00fdmi emaily v jakoukoliv denn\u00ed dobu, ur\u00e1\u017e\u00ed v\u00e1s osobn\u011b, napad\u00e1 \u0161kolu, zpochyb\u0148uje zp\u016fsob va\u0161\u00ed pr\u00e1ce, zad\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00ed \u00fakol\u016f, hodnocen\u00ed apod. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":7,"featured_media":5179,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_exactmetrics_skip_tracking":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_active":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_note":"","_exactmetrics_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-5178","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-psychologie-motivace"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/klett.cz\/konference\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5178","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/klett.cz\/konference\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/klett.cz\/konference\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/klett.cz\/konference\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/7"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/klett.cz\/konference\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5178"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/klett.cz\/konference\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5178\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":5181,"href":"https:\/\/klett.cz\/konference\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5178\/revisions\/5181"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/klett.cz\/konference\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/5179"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/klett.cz\/konference\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5178"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/klett.cz\/konference\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5178"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/klett.cz\/konference\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5178"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}