{"id":3650,"date":"2019-11-11T14:11:29","date_gmt":"2019-11-11T13:11:29","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/klett.cz\/blog\/?p=3650"},"modified":"2019-11-11T14:13:26","modified_gmt":"2019-11-11T13:13:26","slug":"jak-si-uzit-tridni-schuzky","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/klett.cz\/blog\/2019\/11\/11\/jak-si-uzit-tridni-schuzky\/","title":{"rendered":"Jak si u\u017e\u00edt t\u0159\u00eddn\u00ed sch\u016fzky"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-2gy8le-629b094943f19e99c393259171ad897c\">\n.flex_column.av-2gy8le-629b094943f19e99c393259171ad897c{\n-webkit-border-radius:0px 0px 0px 0px;\n-moz-border-radius:0px 0px 0px 0px;\nborder-radius:0px 0px 0px 0px;\npadding:0px 0px 0px 0px;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div class='flex_column av-2gy8le-629b094943f19e99c393259171ad897c av_one_full  avia-builder-el-0  avia-builder-el-no-sibling  first flex_column_div av-zero-column-padding '     ><section  class='av_textblock_section av-k2ufynye-cddcd76d5f9e55e2ce7807a47a91bd8b'  itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/BlogPosting\" itemprop=\"blogPost\" ><div class='avia_textblock'  itemprop=\"text\" ><h1>Jak si u\u017e\u00edt t\u0159\u00eddn\u00ed sch\u016fzky<\/h1>\n<p>Zjistila jsem, \u017ee t\u0159\u00eddn\u00ed sch\u016fzky maj\u00ed zvl\u00e1\u0161tn\u00ed kouzlo. Dok\u00e1\u017eou spojit u\u010ditele, rodi\u010de i d\u011bti do velk\u00e9 skupiny, kter\u00e1 m\u00e1 jeden spole\u010dn\u00fd faktor, a to ten, \u017ee t\u0159\u00eddn\u00ed sch\u016fzky nem\u00e1 nikdo z\u00a0nich r\u00e1d. Doch\u00e1z\u00ed k\u00a0pon\u011bkud zvl\u00e1\u0161tn\u00edmu jevu, trvaj\u00edc\u00edmu zpravidla n\u011bkolik dn\u00ed, kdy se u\u010ditel\u00e9 ob\u00e1vaj\u00ed reakc\u00ed rodi\u010d\u016f \u010di veden\u00ed \u0161koly, rodi\u010de se d\u011bs\u00ed reakc\u00ed u\u010ditel\u016f a d\u011bti napjat\u011b o\u010dek\u00e1vaj\u00ed reakci jak u\u010ditel\u016f, tak i rodi\u010d\u016f. Skoro by byla na m\u00edst\u011b ot\u00e1zka, pro\u010d ty sch\u016fzky st\u00e1le d\u011bl\u00e1me, kdy\u017e se tam v\u011bt\u0161inou nikomu nechce. Jist\u011b, existuj\u00ed v\u00fdjimky a r\u016fzn\u00e9 alternativy v\u00a0podob\u011b individu\u00e1ln\u00edch pohovor\u016f, ale nezd\u00e1 se, \u017ee by byly o tolik m\u00e9n\u011b stresuj\u00edc\u00ed pro v\u0161echny z\u00fa\u010dastn\u011bn\u00e9. U\u010ditel\u00e9 se mnohem v\u00edce namluv\u00ed, rodi\u010de nerv\u00f3zn\u011b podup\u00e1vaj\u00ed ve front\u00e1ch a d\u011bti se ob\u00e1vaj\u00ed mo\u017en\u00e1 je\u0161t\u011b v\u00edce, proto\u017ee v\u011bd\u00ed, \u017ee na rozd\u00edl od t\u011bch spole\u010dn\u00fdch sch\u016fzek, kde je ur\u010dit\u00e1 \u0161ance, \u017ee jejich jm\u00e9no nezazn\u00ed, na t\u011bch individu\u00e1ln\u00edch zazn\u00ed ur\u010dit\u011b. Tak\u017ee doch\u00e1z\u00ed k\u00a0jevu, kdy do \u0161koly putuj\u00ed poctiv\u011b a pravideln\u011b zodpov\u011bdn\u00ed rodi\u010de zodpov\u011bdn\u00fdch a dob\u0159e se u\u010d\u00edc\u00edch d\u011bt\u00ed a rodi\u010de t\u011bch \u201eslo\u017eit\u011bj\u0161\u00edch\u201c vedou doma spory o to, \u201ekdo p\u016fjde tentokr\u00e1t\u201c. Samoz\u0159ejm\u011b, \u017ee jsem to c\u00edlen\u011b v\u00fdrazn\u011b zjednodu\u0161ila, ale mysl\u00edm, \u017ee z\u00e1kladn\u00ed my\u0161lenka je patrn\u00e1. Jde o to, \u017ee t\u0159\u00eddn\u00ed sch\u016fzky p\u0159edstavuj\u00ed \u010dasto stres jak pro rodi\u010de, tak i pro u\u010ditele (o d\u011btech ani nemluv\u011b). \u010c\u00edm to je? A d\u00e1 se s\u00a0t\u00edm n\u011bco d\u011blat?<\/p>\n<\/div><\/section><br \/>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-k2ug25qj-955b029ec4cf2510b51c3cabf2a80cd8\">\n.avia-image-container.av-k2ug25qj-955b029ec4cf2510b51c3cabf2a80cd8 img.avia_image{\nbox-shadow:none;\n}\n.avia-image-container.av-k2ug25qj-955b029ec4cf2510b51c3cabf2a80cd8 .av-image-caption-overlay-center{\ncolor:#ffffff;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div  class='avia-image-container av-k2ug25qj-955b029ec4cf2510b51c3cabf2a80cd8 av-styling- avia-align-center  avia-builder-el-2  el_after_av_textblock  el_before_av_textblock '   itemprop=\"image\" itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/ImageObject\" ><div class=\"avia-image-container-inner\"><div class=\"avia-image-overlay-wrap\"><img class='wp-image-3651 avia-img-lazy-loading-not-3651 avia_image ' src='https:\/\/klett.cz\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/shutterstock_142995208_blog.png' alt='' title='shutterstock_142995208_blog'  height=\"667\" width=\"1000\"  itemprop=\"thumbnailUrl\"  \/><\/div><\/div><\/div><br \/>\n<section  class='av_textblock_section av-k2ufzdx9-64fadea8032ebebe3a639c2043e2b590'  itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/BlogPosting\" itemprop=\"blogPost\" ><div class='avia_textblock'  itemprop=\"text\" ><p>Rodi\u010de nez\u0159\u00eddka stresuje obava, \u017ee se budou c\u00edtit p\u0159ed u\u010ditelem (\u010di ostatn\u00edmi rodi\u010di) \u0161patn\u011b. \u017de zase usly\u0161\u00ed st\u00ed\u017enosti na chov\u00e1n\u00ed sv\u00fdch d\u011bt\u00ed a jejich dom\u00e1c\u00ed p\u0159\u00edpravu, \u017ee budou konfrontov\u00e1ni s\u00a0t\u00edm, jak d\u00edt\u011b zapom\u00edn\u00e1, jak se sm\u011bje v\u00a0hodin\u00e1ch, nebo se bav\u00ed se spolu\u017e\u00e1ky a neposlouch\u00e1 u\u010ditele. (Je dobr\u00e9 si p\u0159iznat, \u017ee \u0159adu t\u011bchto v\u00fdtek rodi\u010d v\u00a0podstat\u011b nem\u00e1 jak doma ovlivnit). \u0158ada rodi\u010d\u016f, s\u00a0nimi\u017e jsem mluvila, \u0161patn\u011b sn\u00e1\u0161\u00ed fakt, \u017ee je u\u010ditel\u00e9 zahrnou kritikou, probl\u00e9my a souhrnem informac\u00ed o tom, co v\u0161echno jejich d\u00edt\u011bti nejde, jak je dan\u00e1 t\u0159\u00edda hrozn\u00e1, jak tam u\u010ditel\u00e9 neradi u\u010d\u00ed apod. Nezapom\u00ednejme na to, \u017ee v\u00a0t\u011bchto situac\u00edch se v\u00a0rodi\u010d\u00edch o\u017eiv\u00ed jejich vlastn\u00ed z\u00e1\u017eitky ze \u0161koly, zku\u0161enosti s\u00a0autoritami, pro\u017eit\u00e9 k\u0159ivdy, ale t\u0159eba i snaha vyniknout. N\u011bkte\u0159\u00ed na \u0161kolu vzpom\u00ednaj\u00ed r\u00e1di, n\u011bkte\u0159\u00ed z\u00a0n\u00ed maj\u00ed respekt, jin\u00ed si uv\u011bdomuj\u00ed d\u016fle\u017eitost vzd\u011bl\u00e1n\u00ed a dal\u0161\u00ed d\u011blaj\u00ed v\u0161echno pro to, aby do n\u00ed u\u017e nemuseli vstoupit. Toto vlastn\u00ed vnit\u0159n\u00ed nastaven\u00ed pak v\u011bdom\u011b \u010di nev\u011bdom\u011b p\u0159ed\u00e1vaj\u00ed doma sv\u00fdm d\u011btem. Odhl\u00e9dneme-li od toho, jak r\u016fzn\u00e9 jsou osobnosti rodi\u010d\u016f i jejich zku\u0161enosti a o\u010dek\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00ed, kter\u00e9 v\u00a0souvislosti se \u0161kolou maj\u00ed (jeliko\u017e na to nem\u00e1me dostatek prostoru), zmi\u0148me alespo\u0148 n\u011bco m\u00e1lo, co bychom mohli ud\u011blat pro to, aby n\u00e1m spolu s\u00a0rodi\u010di bylo ve t\u0159\u00edd\u011b dob\u0159e. Ono to toti\u017e jde\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Pod\u00edvejme se na \u0161kolu a t\u0159\u00eddu o\u010dima ciz\u00edho \u010dlov\u011bka, kter\u00fd tam nechod\u00ed denn\u011b. Jak na n\u00e1s p\u016fsob\u00ed? Stroze, nebo h\u0159ejiv\u011b a p\u0159\u00edjemn\u011b? Jak\u00e9 dojmy vyvol\u00e1 v\u00a0rodi\u010di, kdy\u017e tam vejde a bude se rozhl\u00ed\u017eet? T\u00edm to v\u0161echno za\u010d\u00edn\u00e1. Vytv\u00e1\u0159ejme p\u0159\u00edjemn\u00e9 prost\u0159ed\u00ed. Kv\u016fli d\u011btem, kv\u016fli sob\u011b, ale i kv\u016fli rodi\u010d\u016fm. Usm\u00edvejme se. Dejme rodi\u010d\u016fm najevo, \u017ee jsme r\u00e1di, \u017ee p\u0159i\u0161li, \u017ee se o sv\u00e9 d\u011bti zaj\u00edmaj\u00ed. P\u0159ipravme se na sch\u016fzky, a\u0165 nep\u016fsob\u00edme zmaten\u011b. Mluvme pomalu a z\u0159eteln\u011b, ale uv\u011bdomme si, \u017ee p\u0159ed n\u00e1mi sed\u00ed dosp\u011bl\u00ed lid\u00e9. Mluvme tak, aby nem\u011bli pocit, \u017ee zase po letech sed\u00ed p\u0159ed n\u011bjakou svou u\u010ditelkou. Najd\u011bme co nejv\u00edce pozitiv, kter\u00e1 se t\u00fdkaj\u00ed cel\u00e9 t\u0159\u00eddy, kvality kolektivu, ale i jednotliv\u00fdch d\u011bt\u00ed a za\u010dn\u011bme t\u00edm. Pokud to jde, uklidn\u011bme rodi\u010de, \u017ee jejich d\u011bti jsou v\u00a0dobr\u00e9m prost\u0159ed\u00ed, \u017ee maj\u00ed \u0159adu pozitivn\u00edch n\u00e1vyk\u016f, \u017ee pracuj\u00ed, \u017ee se daj\u00ed zaujmout, \u017ee se chovaj\u00ed kamar\u00e1dsky, navz\u00e1jem si pom\u00e1haj\u00ed a v\u011bt\u0161inu situac\u00ed jsme schopn\u00ed spolu s\u00a0nimi vy\u0159e\u0161it p\u0159\u00edmo ve \u0161kole. Uvoln\u011bme rodi\u010de a pokusme se rozpt\u00fdlit obavy, s\u00a0nimi\u017e do \u0161koly p\u0159ich\u00e1zej\u00ed. U\u010ditel pot\u0159ebuje m\u00edt pocit, \u017ee m\u00e1 rodi\u010de na sv\u00e9 stran\u011b, \u017ee jej berou v\u00e1\u017en\u011b, \u017ee ch\u00e1pou a podporuj\u00ed jeho rozhodnut\u00ed a rodi\u010d pot\u0159ebuje m\u00edt nutn\u011b pocit, \u017ee u\u010diteli na jeho d\u00edt\u011bti z\u00e1le\u017e\u00ed, \u017ee se jej sna\u017e\u00ed pochopit a rozv\u00edjet, \u017ee vn\u00edm\u00e1 jeho siln\u00e9 str\u00e1nky a jde mu o to, aby se ve \u0161kole c\u00edtilo dob\u0159e. Teprve tehdy, kdy\u017e se n\u00e1m poda\u0159\u00ed s\u00a0v\u011bt\u0161inou rodi\u010d\u016f vytvo\u0159it vztah vz\u00e1jemn\u00e9 d\u016fv\u011bry a spolupr\u00e1ce, m\u016f\u017eeme \u00fa\u010dinn\u011b pracovat na probl\u00e9mech. Teprve pot\u00e9, a\u017e rodi\u010d vn\u00edm\u00e1, \u017ee n\u00e1m na d\u00edt\u011bti z\u00e1le\u017e\u00ed a m\u00e1me ho r\u00e1di, m\u016f\u017eeme spole\u010dn\u011b probrat to, co nefunguje. Teprve ve chv\u00edli, kdy rodi\u010d c\u00edt\u00ed, \u017ee to s\u00a0d\u00edt\u011btem mysl\u00edme dob\u0159e a \u017ee jsme nejen vzd\u011blan\u00ed, ale tak\u00e9 vst\u0159\u00edcn\u00ed a lid\u0161t\u00ed, bude br\u00e1t v\u00e1\u017en\u011b na\u0161e n\u00e1vrhy \u010di doporu\u010den\u00ed a nebude m\u00edt strach n\u00e1m \u0159\u00edct, jak sv\u00e9 d\u00edt\u011b vid\u00ed on s\u00e1m. \u010c\u00edm v\u00edce kritiky si rodi\u010d na sv\u00e9 d\u00edt\u011b u\u017e vyslechl (na ni\u017e\u0161\u00edm stupni \u0161koly, v\u00a0M\u0160, od babi\u010dek apod.), t\u00edm vd\u011b\u010dn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed v\u011bt\u0161inou bude, kdy\u017e mu budeme sd\u011blovat n\u011bco pozitivn\u00edho.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/section><br \/>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-k2ug3fdq-0dea9bcf905107437127e30300b0c5b8\">\n.avia-image-container.av-k2ug3fdq-0dea9bcf905107437127e30300b0c5b8 img.avia_image{\nbox-shadow:none;\n}\n.avia-image-container.av-k2ug3fdq-0dea9bcf905107437127e30300b0c5b8 .av-image-caption-overlay-center{\ncolor:#ffffff;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div  class='avia-image-container av-k2ug3fdq-0dea9bcf905107437127e30300b0c5b8 av-styling- avia-align-center  avia-builder-el-4  el_after_av_textblock  el_before_av_textblock '   itemprop=\"image\" itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/ImageObject\" ><div class=\"avia-image-container-inner\"><div class=\"avia-image-overlay-wrap\"><img class='wp-image-3652 avia-img-lazy-loading-not-3652 avia_image ' src='https:\/\/klett.cz\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/shutterstock_720794062_blog.png' alt='' title='shutterstock_720794062_blog'  height=\"667\" width=\"1000\"  itemprop=\"thumbnailUrl\"  \/><\/div><\/div><\/div><br \/>\n<section  class='av_textblock_section av-k2ug0hus-2e23e14fe118cab260deaddcceadb481'  itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/BlogPosting\" itemprop=\"blogPost\" ><div class='avia_textblock'  itemprop=\"text\" ><p>Samoz\u0159ejm\u011b, je t\u0159eba \u0159e\u0161it probl\u00e9my, poukazovat na to, co nefunguje, domlouvat postup tam, kde se d\u011bje n\u011bco negativn\u00edho. Ale \u010dasto na to jdeme \u0161patn\u011b v\u00a0tom, \u017ee je to prvn\u00ed v\u011bc, na kterou se v\u00a0rozhovoru s\u00a0rodi\u010di zam\u011b\u0159\u00edme. Nezapom\u00ednejme na to, \u017ee jde o d\u011bti, k\u00a0nim\u017e maj\u00ed rodi\u010de siln\u00fd citov\u00fd vztah. Kritiku budou vn\u00edmat jako \u00fatok a budou m\u00edt tendenci sv\u00e9 d\u00edt\u011b h\u00e1jit a oponovat n\u00e1m, proto\u017ee je to prost\u011b p\u0159irozen\u00e1 reakce (v hor\u0161\u00edm p\u0159\u00edpad\u011b si vztek vybij\u00ed doma na d\u00edt\u011bti). Kdy\u017e se n\u00e1m poda\u0159\u00ed za\u010d\u00edt t\u00edm pozitivn\u00edm a uklidnit rodi\u010de, \u017ee nestoj\u00edme proti nim a jejich d\u011btem, ale \u017ee jsme tam spolu s\u00a0nimi pro jejich d\u011bti, bude m\u00edt to, co jim budeme sd\u011blovat, mnohem v\u011bt\u0161\u00ed \u00fa\u010dinek. Zvy\u0161uje se tak na\u0161e \u0161ance, \u017ee n\u00e1s rodi\u010de budou m\u00edt r\u00e1di, \u017ee n\u00e1s budou respektovat a \u017ee se t\u0159eba na p\u0159\u00ed\u0161t\u00ed t\u0159\u00eddn\u00ed sch\u016fzky budou dokonce i t\u011b\u0161it. A mnohem, mnohem l\u00e9pe se tam p\u0159\u00ed\u0161t\u011b p\u016fjde i n\u00e1m.<\/p>\n<p>A je\u0161t\u011b jeden kr\u00e1tk\u00fd post\u0159eh z praxe na z\u00e1v\u011br. N\u011bkdy by ob\u011bma stran\u00e1m pomohlo, kdybychom m\u00e9n\u011b mluvili a v\u00edce se ptali. Rodi\u010d bude c\u00edtit, \u017ee jej bereme v\u00e1\u017en\u011b, \u017ee se zaj\u00edm\u00e1me nejen o probl\u00e9m, ale o situaci dan\u00e9 rodiny a kdy\u017e se bez ironie zept\u00e1me, jak by si \u0159e\u0161en\u00ed ur\u010dit\u00fdch obt\u00ed\u017e\u00ed p\u0159edstavoval on s\u00e1m na na\u0161em m\u00edst\u011b, m\u016f\u017eeme si nez\u0159\u00eddka vyslechnout zaj\u00edmav\u00fd post\u0159eh, nebo rodi\u010d p\u0159ijde na to, pro\u010d je jeho p\u0159edstava \u0159e\u0161en\u00ed nere\u00e1ln\u00e1. A to je taky cenn\u00fd posun.<\/p>\n<p>Tak a\u017e to p\u0159ijde, tak si to u\u017eijte.<\/p>\n<h3>Mgr. et Mgr. Eva Martin\u00e1kov\u00e1<\/h3>\n<\/div><\/section><\/p><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>T\u0159\u00eddn\u00ed sch\u016fzky maj\u00ed zvl\u00e1\u0161tn\u00ed kouzlo. Dok\u00e1\u017eou spojit u\u010ditele, rodi\u010de i d\u011bti do velk\u00e9 skupiny, kter\u00e1 m\u00e1 jeden spole\u010dn\u00fd faktor, a to ten, \u017ee t\u0159\u00eddn\u00ed sch\u016fzky nem\u00e1 nikdo z\u00a0nich r\u00e1d.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":7,"featured_media":3651,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_mi_skip_tracking":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/klett.cz\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3650"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/klett.cz\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/klett.cz\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/klett.cz\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/7"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/klett.cz\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3650"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/klett.cz\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3650\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3654,"href":"https:\/\/klett.cz\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3650\/revisions\/3654"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/klett.cz\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/3651"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/klett.cz\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3650"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/klett.cz\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3650"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/klett.cz\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3650"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}